Regarding muffler delete: If you still have pre and main cats (even if Magnaflow or other performance brand), then I think you'll be OK with the muffler delete. If missing EITHER one of those, it's gonna be too loud...especially knowing you had such "problem" trying to find the perfect muffler.
Actually, my first exhaust config sounded very good...probably about what you'd like. I had the original main/pre cats and used resonated tips. The 18" long kind with dual slash cut ends. Looked very nice.
It might be an option to consider. Resonated tips can help alot. Get them out as far back as possible -- without being so far you'd hit your shin. It's another secret to avoiding drone.